MUSINGS: INTERVIEW WITH KAMERON BROOK

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MIMI: I never met our guest and I admit I haven’t read anything she has written...but I plan to. This woman writes erotic stories and it was a friend and dedicated reader of this writer’s works who told me about her. Our guest’s list of short stories and novelettes includes: “Welcome to the Neighborhood”, “Dreams Really Do Come True”, “New Beginnings”, “Girls’ Night Out”, “Sinfully Delicious”, and the most recent novelette “Naughty Delights”.

    

Please welcome the family-oriented, mother of 2, who is close to her own mother, the shy but with a thing for knee socks — Kameron Brook.

MONA:  Hi Kameron and thanks for agreeing to visit us today. Hey…what’s this knee sock thing you have going on and what does hubby say? Ever wear any of them to bed?

KAMERON: Wow, seriously how did you find out about my sock fetish? Yes, you heard right. I have a sock fetish. I think there's nothing sexier than a woman in knee or thigh high socks. Yes, I do go to bed in them often and when I say "bed", I mean that's part of my sexy-lets get it on- outfit. Dirk loves the look so much, he asks me all the time to wear them to bed with a tank, small panties, and of course my glasses. He loves the naughty librarian look and guess what.....SO DO I!

MIMI AND MONA:  <BIG SILLY GRINS> 

MIMI: Does anyone call you Kam?

KAMERON: Yes and I’m totally okay with it. Just don’t call me dear. For some reason, I’ve always disliked that endearment.

MIMI: Do you have any other nickname people use?

KAMERON: No, I’m just Kameron or Kam. J

MONA: Tell us about the moment you decided to become a writer. Was it an easy decision? Difficult decision?

KAMERON: About three years ago, I opened up my laptop and started writing. Dirk and I shared fantasies back and forth. We shared those in our notes and on our blog. After much encouragement from him and Facebook friends, I submitted “Girls Night Out”. It was a hit and I couldn’t have been happier.

MIMI: What is the most difficult part of being a co-author?

KAMERON: Dirk is a busy man so he has trouble finding time to sit down and work on his sections. After spending hours upon hours at his computer related job, sometimes the last thing he wants to do is type on it at night. I can’t really blame him there.

MIMI: How much planning and communication would you guess is involved?

KAMERON: We bounce ideas off each other all the time. Some ideas stay dormant and some we act upon. If you opened up any of our WIP’s, you would notice notes to each other throughtout the story. Ex. Remember that one time we did this…..wouldn’t it fit perfectly here?

MONA: Hey, Kameron, what kind of music do you like?

KAMERON: My playlist changes all the time. Just last month, I was rockin out to Billy Idol. This week, Usher is my man. The only types of music I don’t listen to is jazz, polka, or country.

MIMI: Do you listen to music while you write?

KAMERON: No, I actually turn on a comedic show or movie. I find laughter relaxing and it helps me focus.

MIMI: Why do you think people read erotica?

KAMERON: Maybe they want to live out their own fantasies. Maybe they are looking for inspirations for their own sex lives. For whatever reasons people chose to read it, I’m sure glad they do.

MONA: What do you think erotic fiction does for your readers?

KAMERON: I think it lets them escape into a world which maybe they haven’t entered yet or one that they have entered and it rehashes fond memories. At least I hope it raises good memories.

MIMI: What can you tell us about your ideal reader?

KAMERON: Anyone who likes to laugh, loves a steamy scene is our ideal reader. That’s at least half the world, right? J

MONA: Why do you think sex sells?

KAMERON: Because we are all sexual beings who enjoy getting kinky either by our own actions or through the actions of a character (s).

MIMI: How much does your own sexuality come into play when you are writing a book?

KAMERON: Every story we create has some truth to them. Either a scene(s) or the entire creation. We never divulge how much or which part. We want the reader to wonder.

MONA: What hangs on the wall above your bed?

KAMERON: A sign that reads, “Live, Laugh, Love”.

MIMI:  So, do any of your female characters have tattoos? If so, who, what is the tattoo, where is it located, and which book are we talking about?

KAMERON: --

MONA: Can you give us 5 unrelated words that describe your main character, Donovan, from “Naughty Delights”?

KAMERON: Romantic, comical, chef, strong, and sexyasallgetout. Don’t bother looking up the last word in Webster. It’s totally a real word. Don’t believe me. Now, would I ever lie to you? On second thought, don’t answer that.

MIMI: Give us three "Good-to-Know" facts about you. C’mon…be creative. For example, what can you tell us about your first job? Or, fun details of your favorite way to unwind.

KAMERON: One, I am seriously freaked out by garden gnomes. Dirk loves to tease me about it. Recently, he bought a gnome candle and lit it. Freaked me the hell out! Two, I would rather eat a bowl of bussel sprouts than a M&M’s. No joke! Three, I’m still a cartoon junkie. You can’t go wrong with Looney Tunes or Scooby Doo.

MIMI: Kameron, what book or books, if any, or what authors (living or dead) would you name as influences and why?

KAMERON: I read daily and the ones I most frequent are: Kresley Cole, Lara Adrian, Pamela Palmer, Keri Arthur, Karen Moning, Sherrilyn Kenyon, Shayla Black, Lora Leigh, Jaci Burton and (drum roll please) James Patterson. Betcha didn’t see him coming!

MONA: If you had to choose, which writer would you consider a mentor?

KAMERON: The only person I can think of who inspres me to write and be a great writer is Dirk. He truly is my greatest champion!

(dirk)

MONA: What book are you reading now and what’s on your TBR list?

KAMERON: I am currently reading MacRieve by Kresley Cole. Next up will be Succubus Vengeance by G.E. Stills.

MIMI: Will you share something about yourself that no one knows?  Any secrets?

KAMERON: I have six toes on each foot……. Kidding.

MONA: So, what actor/actress would be a good mix with Elizabeth or Donovan of “Naughty Delights”?

KAMERON: Joe Manganiello would make a great Donovan or Jackson, best friend. Heck I just want him to play a role from one of my stories.

Let’s see, Elizabeth…… I chose – ME.

(Joe Manganiello)

Naughty Delights’ Donovan = Joe Manganiello

MIMI: What was the hardest thing for you to cut from you MS?

KAMERON: We tweaked down the menu board because if we didn’t, the passage would’ve been way too long and wordy.

MIMI: For those who do not know what the “menu board” is, could you give them an idea?

KAMERON: (Menu Board) We listened many sugary creations on the bakery board - our most favorite treats:  Hairy Balls - Donut Holes with Dark Chocolate Shavings and Peach Fuzz – Donut Holes with White Chocolate Shavings 

MONA: Let’s say Elizabeth (from “Naughty Delights”) has to have a password for something.  What would that password be?

KAMERON: 2hairyballs… HAHA!

MONA: HAHAHA!

MIMI: So, from that list of the stories you and your co-authors have written, and if we add in “Naughty Delights”, which one was your favorite?

KAMERON: “Naughty Delights” is most definitely my favorite story because I loved the menu board and the comic moments. Plus, I thought the epilogue was so tender.

MIMI: Which story carried your favorite character and what about that character do you like more than the others?

KAMERON: I like all my characters equally. Hey, I don’t chose favorites with my two kids so I can’t chose favorites here either. Sorry.

MONA: Since your books are short-story and novelette length, do your dedicated readers ever ask when you’re going to write a novella or maybe even a novel?

KAMERON: All the freaking time!!!!! Dirk and I have discussed writing a detective book but who knows what the future holds for us.

MIMI: Kameron, I just want to say what fun it was getting to know you. Thanks for taking time to share a bit about yourself (and for giving away a copy of Naughty Delights). I think you’re someone it would be interesting to know better.

KAMERON: Thank you so much for having me on today. I truly had a great time and I look forward to meeting your followers. Folks, good luck on the giveaway. I believe whomever wins the short story will walk away one happy camper. (Whether from laughing so hard or from the steamy nookie sections.) 

Please leave me a comment about the interview or about your favorite book by Kameron Brooks.

MONA: You have an excerpt you want to share? Tell us why you chose this particular excerpt.

KAMERON: --

It’s grand opening day of Guilty Pleasures, and Donovan is there bright and early with his best friend Jackson. He came to show support to Jackson’s girl, Felicia and maybe grab a sugary treat. Little did he know he’d find something sweeter than anything offered on the menu board – the woman of his dreams. 

Excerpt:

This is it, Elizabeth thought as she pushed through the door to deliver a large batch of chocolate and vanilla sugar cookies to the display case. It was grand opening day for Guilty Pleasures, and she couldn’t be more excited or more nervous. Years of scrimping and saving had accumulated to this day. In a matter of minutes the bakery would be open for business, and their city would officially have their first taboo sweet shop.

Elizabeth took one final look around, making sure everything was perfect, when Felicia, her business partner and friend, appeared next to her, chomping on a fornication cookie.

Out of all the sugary creations crafted for the shop, Elizabeth and Felicia would agree these were the most fun to develop. They spent many wine-filled nights brainstorming and researching ideas for the inserts.

“What’s it say, babe?” Elizabeth asked, nodding toward the paper in Felicia’s hand.

Felicia laughed and read the naughty message, "Two heads are better than one, but three, now that’s what I call a party!" As she tucked the paper into her back pocket, she asked, “I forget. Was this yours or mine?”

“I actually think your man deserves credit for this one.” Grinning, Elizabeth grabbed the sampler plate off the counter and walked toward the front door, turning to take one final look around before the place filled up. She couldn't be any prouder of the decor in her little slice of heaven. She glanced to her left and smiled proudly as she admired the photos on the wall. 

The food photographer they had hired did a fantastic job capturing the beauty and sexiness of several corset cakes available for purchase. But the icing on the cake, so to speak, was the mural to the right of the entrance. A local artist painted "What Are Your Guilty Pleasures" but the letters were actually naked people in compromising naughty positions.

Felicia giggled. “Oh yeah, it’s all coming back to me now. We definitely drank way too much that night.”

Nodding in agreement, Elizabeth turned on the neon sign and opened the doors for business.

Already, a few eager customers were waiting by the window. They actually applauded when Elizabeth stepped out of the shop door. She greeted them with a smile and offered them their choice of iced cocks or boobs. She wasn’t surprised the guests blushed when they made their selection and bit into the cookie. She expected to witness many rosy cheeks in the hours ahead of them—giggles too.

As the streets began to fill up with people going to work, Elizabeth tried to coax even more passersby into the shop with her funny shout-outs such as: “I bet our peckers taste as good as your man’s. No wait, even better!” And, “Our breasts are fantastic and all natural.” All the while she held up a naughty treat.

After the bell dinged behind her a couple dozen times, she realized the humorous approach to draw in customers was working like a charm. Now with them inside, she had no doubt every person who’d entered the shop erected from her dreams would be a repeat customer. And with this thought, she knew the many dinners of Ramen noodles were well worth the discomfort it cost her over the years.

MIMI AND MONA:  Here is the contact information for Kameron Brook and Dirk Tyler and links to buy their novelettes.

Blog: http://www.dirkandkam.com
Facebook Author page: https://www.facebook.com/DirkandKam

Goodreads' links:

http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/5781386.Kameron_Brook

http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/5120666.Dirk_Tyler

Amazon Author Pages:

http://amazon.com/author/kameronbrook

http://www.amazon.com/Dirk-Tyler/e/B00A8IDHMC/

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Blog: Book Review of The Last Debutante

BOOK REVIEW: BOOKS THAT MAKE YOU 

WANT TO CLIMB THE WALLS

Let me start by saying I really do love me a good romance novel and I have really always enjoyed such novels by Julia London.

Until I bought The Last Debutante and about a quarter of the way through I was ready to climb the walls.

Here...let me explain.

This is the final book in the series, The Secrets of Hadley Green and that’s really a good thing.

Daria Babcock is the last debutante in all of Hadley Green – and she’s 21 years old—that’s practically on the shelf during the Regency era in England. How will she ever meet to titled lord who will want her.

As fate would have it, her grandmother is in Scotland and needs help. Her parents were going to go and leave Daria at home. But, Daria convinces them to let her and her friend Charity go. When they arrive, Charity finds a tour coach with a couple of elderly women and sends Daria on her way alone. Unhappy but resigned to find her grandmother, Daria takes the tour coach and gets dropped off, with her trunk and suitcase, on the middle of the road.

Too heavy to carry, she leaves the trunk in the road, and follows a path to find her grandmother’s cottage.

She finds the small cottage, and while her grandmother is nowhere to be found, when Daria opens the second bedroom door, she discovers a naked man in the bed. Then she learns he’s a highlander, but doesn’t learn his name is Jamie Campbell until later. He’s been shot. And Daria’s grandmother shot him!

Jamie gets rescued, but he takes Daria and holds her ransom because grandmother stole 1000 pounds from Jamie’s uncle (actually, from the Campbell Clan—and Jamie is laird of the clan).

Hmmm, is this beginning to sound familiar to you? Can you say “Outlander”?

Granted, Claire in The Outlander does a bit of time traveling from 1945 to the 18th century, which sets Diana Gabaldon's novel a step above most romance novels...well, and the fact that I think Gabaldon's novel can also be described as a work of detailed accounts of the era's Scottish clan life. Plus, Gabaldon's plot propelled by the time-travel thing.

I like Julia London’s romance novels, but I would have been a much happier if she’d been concerned enough to at least change the story line and the character’s names…Jamie, Hamish, Dougal, etc. I can’t imagine what she was thinking as she continued to write that the Campbell “laird wanted to marry the ‘Sassenach’ even though he knows he has to his clan.

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Musings--Writing

In a single day, there are 1440 minutes.

I know...you really needed to know that. In a complex world where we are already busy busy as hell, it seems almost impossible to find time to write.

What if we think about writing as something other than a task, a job, a commitment? What if writing becomes a choice. You know, like cooking a meal instead of going out or passing through the Drive-Thru (I hate "thru" because it always reminds me of a sword being plunged "thru" some poor devil).

We have all heard that time is money. Well, maybe more to the point is our time is like money. We have only so much, right? So, let’s make decisions about how and where we are going to spend it.

If writing is a choice, then maybe we won't keep looking at our watch and wondering WHERE we're going to FIND the time. If writing is our choice, something we really want, won't me MAKE the time?

If you want to date that special person, won't you MAKE time in you busy schedule? If you want to go to a concert, won't you MAKE time in your busy evening?

When it is something we really want, won't we make the choice to be writers? Once we commit, then don't we want to MAKE time to write?

We don’t want to squeeze our writing between our other activities; heck, as busy with our lives as most of us are, we might not ever FIND time to get our writing done.

But, if it’s something we truly want, then we become proactive…we get creative and rework our schedules to meet our desire to write rather than trying to work writing into our schedules.

I'm a list maker...something my dad taught me to do before I was ten years old. Anyway, try creating a list of how your time is used. I did this; boy, was I surprised. Here are some of the items on my list.

1.  Unavoidable Tasks--this is where you might want to add your career/job/work.

2.  Necessary Tasks--well, obviously, you will not be giving up things like cooking meals, doing laundry, gardening and yard work, getting dressed, eating meals. After I got everything listed, I tried to figure out which of these task could be reassessed, rescheduled, or maybe combined with other tasks.

3.  Tasks That Make Me Feel Good -- hey, I was not about to give up any of these...there are not that many, but they are things I really like.

4.  Tasks I Think I Should Do/Obligations--this is where I included my volunteer work but I discovered that there were tasks I assumed that I could hand off to others; e.g., picking up the kids toys and clothes. But there were also things I did that really did not need to be done. I offer my obsession for ironing sheets. Totally unnecessary but a task I took on when I thought I had time. Now, I can just fold them and put them in the linen closet and use that time for writing.

5.  Tasks That Take An Inordinate Amount Of Time--I found I was losing time from distractions--interruptions I permitted when I performing a task...interruptions that could have waited. If someone can't find a sock or the keys, I don't stop what I'm doing any longer. I let them search and offer suggestions while continuing what I am working on.

6.  Time Spent Reading, Surfing The Net, Playing Computer Games Or Games With Family, Etc.--This is a HUGE one for me and I will not say that all or even most of them are time wasters. To me, time with my family doing anything and time reading or necessary tasks. The others, well, those were my time wasters. I do not watch much TV, but there is another time waster. We do not need to be entertained when we could entertain our selves by doing something we really want to do--WRITE.

7.  Errands--Holy Cow!! I never realized how much of a drain on my time there was by making repeated trips in the same day. I didn’t consider that a trip to the grocery store involved a 15-minute drive each way…well, that was an hour of my time if I made 2 trips. That’s when I created lists for everything, not just groceries—like dropping off or picking up dry cleaning or anything I may have promised to drop off to a friend or neighbor, a list for office need, etc. That way, I was able to combine the lists and do the errands and make only one trip in the car. I also decided that if, the day AFTER I did all of my errands, someone said, “Mom, I need such-and-such,” I say I’d get it on my next trip or point them in the direction of the store.

And this is where I taught others to respect my time. It is also the point where I decided I did not need to answer the phone every time it rang. In fact, I unplug it sometimes just so I will not be disturbed. And, when I'm in my office writing, I have a little pillow I hang on the door knob that says, "Shhh, Novel In Progress"--it's a more pleasant reminder to anyone on the other side than my being interrupted and saying something like, "I don't have time", "No, you cannot go, watch TV, play on the computer, what-ever", "Unless you're bleeding, handle it yourself". Well, you get the picture. We need to insist family members respect our need for time to write.

There are a couple of other things I do and I offer them here only as suggestions for anyone who wants to take one or more up.

1.  I keep a notebook (NOT the popular electronic one...a spiral notebook full of real paper) in my car along with a pen. When I go anywhere for an appointment, I take it with me because I never know how long I'm going to have to wait. Hey, 10 minutes here and there (that could turn into half and hour) don't need to be wasted waiting. Right?

2.  I also keep tablets and pens at various locations around the house and when an idea or a thought about something I want to include in my WIP (Work In Progress), I don't have to go searching for something to write it down on and possibly forget what that idea was before I find a tablet and pen. I keep one next to the bed so that if I wake up from a dream and want to write anything part of it down...honest, I really do that.

3.  You'll find I travel with pens and tablets, also. Even if it's only a short trip to the mall--where I know I'll find a table to sit and have an iced drink or maybe something to eat and watch people...and I always see someone interesting or I might overhear an interesting conversation. Or, when I take a vacation, well, look at all the free time between activities when we get back to the hotel room or back to our cabin on the lake. 

4.  Maybe you could keep a special tablet at work and when you go on a break or take time for lunch, you could make time to write about a particular emotion, or an unusual encounter, or maybe a description of a particularly interesting character you happened to meet, or maybe work on your own manuscript.

If you decide you are going to MAKE time to write, don't hold off until tomorrow or until the kids are grown and gone, or until you retire. Begin claiming time for yourself today. 

WRITE ON! -- sorry, I just had to say that.

blog - ALPHA

This is a RE-POST from the Blog Originally Posted 31st March 2012 from the Hijacked Blog of Mimi and Mona and with the Premier of the TV show Alpha this coming Monday, it seemed fitting to re-share this blog post.

ALPHA

MALES

"Some guys have all the luck, some guys have all the pain, some guys get all the breaks, some guys do nothing but complain." Rod Stewart

They've gotten the chicks, the success, the respect, and the other fringe benefits that come with social and sexual power, for millions of years. But why? Why do other men figuratively, and literally, bow to these strong characters? Why do women swoon over them with interest that can only be described as sexual veneration?

In the context of this conversation, where males' dominant characteristics will be compared to other males' not-so-dominant characteristics, "alpha man" is a misnomer. "Alpha man" is only correctly used when it refers to a man who reigns over ALL of his kingdom—women, children, animals, the television remote—in a tyrannical manner not unlike that of Adolph Hitler or Archie Bunker.

The proper term for the male who holds major assets in the sexual, social, and food stores of his community, only when compared to other males, is "alpha male."

An Alpha Male is huge turn-on for women. Women are drawn by his confidence or his swagger, his energy, and how he appeals to their desire for pleasure. He’s cool and laid-back and with him women travel to a place where time means nothing. They are free from responsibility with this guy and get lost in mental and sensual stimulation.

Ø  He freely touches others in the group, without expressed or implied permission

Ø  He might intimidate by staring, or he could simply use the unnerving tactic to demand attention

Ø  He's never uncomfortable with eye contact, and will never break it first

Ø  He'll unapologetically interrupt conversations or monologues

Ø  He'll utilize the pregnant pause, stopping in the middle of sentences, phrases, even words, because he enjoys it when others allegorically hang on his every word

Ø  When anyone in the group makes a significant statement, everyone in the group will look to the alpha male for his response

Ø  He'll do most everything slowly and with deliberation. If the doorbell rings, he might finish his drink before answering it. If the phone rings, the voicemail might beat him to the caller. If someone calls his name, he'll finish his sentence and his sandwich before responding. If the building's burning, he won't stop, drop, and roll—he'll put out his cigarette, run a comb through his hair, lie down, and then consider rolling casually from the collapsing building. This forces those around him to move on his schedule—a demonstration of situation (and people) control.

Ø  He holds the conversation's figurative remote control: despite others' attempts to change the channel, he'll flex his power to make them think that what he wants to talk about is what they want to talk about

Ø  When walking in a group of men, the alpha male will generally go first. Without a hint of metaphor, he takes the lead

Ø  If the waitress forgot to put in half of the order, and the alpha male receives his dinner before the rest of the group, he'll have no qualms about eating in front of his famished friends, and will continue to dominate conversation as he does so

Ø  He'll attempt to sit or stand the tallest

Ø  By inflating his chest, widening his shoulders, putting his hands on his hips, and/or spreading his feet apart when standing, he's attempting to appear larger—to take up more room than a bull elephant in musk

Ø  When sitting, he might put his feet on a desk, place his hands behind his head, spread his legs…again, to appear larger and take more than his allotted portion of air space

Ø  He will have no doubts about holding his chin high, exposing his neck. This evolutionary hold-over behavior says, "I'm not afraid of any of you. Look, here's my exposed jugular to prove it."

Ø  He'll show no sign of nervousness—no high-chest breathing, no fidgeting, no jumping like Richard Simmons on caffeine

Ø  He'll ask questions of his cohorts, as if every meeting was a reenactment of the Spanish Inquisition. Most conversations will be one-sided, with his mind being the inquiring one. He'll disclose very little about himself.

Ø  In the words of Jerry Seinfeld, he might be a close talker. This is a show of territorial rights. He's taking his piece of the floor out of someone else's…just because he can.

You never know what he’s going to do next and that excites most women, surprises many, and makes them feel like they’re living close to the edge right along with him. 

His sex appeal is born of his masculinity mixed with an emotionality that leads the female to wonder if he is inside of your head. He notices the things about a woman that makes her special and his sensitivity and ability to notice those details, in turn, makes him special to them.

All females, other than the Alpha Female, are flattered by the push/pull conversation he gives and the fact that he says what’s on his mind without regret. He makes women wonder if they’re up for the challenge.

They begin to doubt if they can handle him… yet his way with words soothes their minds and leads him to the romantic seduction of their entire body.

Even women, other than the Alpha Female, who are in a relationship with another and who encounter an Alpha Male can’t help but think about the Alpha… sometimes to the detriment of your relationship. Yep, might as well call in a relationship doctor because the appearance of an Alpha Male in their life is enough to make their current relationship flat-line. 

They begin to desire Mr. Alpha and consciously or unconsciously compare their man to him. Dominance, confidence, sex appeal, pleasure, and self-respect are the scales females use as they mentally pit one man against the other. The Alpha Male is the one who fuels their passion and makes them want to have sex with him. Immediately. :-) 

He can be tall or short. Thin, fat, physically fit. Dreadlocks, crew cut, tight fade, bald head (Mmmm)... He might have deep green eyes, ocean blue eyes, chocolate brown eyes, or piercing black eyes. 

How does this happen? Well, Pheromones. They're largely undetectable, but powerful, olfactory triggers that aid in mate selection. You've likely heard of them before…but did you know that the alpha male's pheromones are not only more potent than the average man's, but that they hold the power to turn the lesser women into alpha pheromone addicts?

Additionally, androstadienone, another pheromone excreted by human males, triggers cortisol release in women. This cortisol causes women to overcome psychological concerns surrounding a potential sexual partner, experience a sense of euphoria, and to shed inhibition.

So, you might ask, how do these two male pheromones connect to the alpha male? I'm glad you asked. You see, both of these pheromones are derivatives of testosterone. We all know by now that true alpha males have higher levels of testosterone than that average male. Therefore, more of these female euphoria-inducing chemicals will be excreted from an alpha male.

At long last…a credible biological answer to Rod Stewart's lament.

Okay…let’s talk body language. The Alpha Male’s is unmistakable.

He is:

Ø  comfortable in his own skin

Ø  able to invade our personal space in a nonthreatening way

Ø  charming and personally magnetic

Ø  able to move and speak without insecurity 

These characteristics and behaviors are what make ladies go ga-ga over a dude. Because of them, women listen to this person more… they respect him…he’s absolutely irresistible.

Alpha Male qualities are desirable to us women and for that, he is a dangerous breed. He casts a powerful and intoxicating spell over us. Many books, articles and magazines are dedicated to becoming an Alpha Male. The reason is easy: Alpha Males know how to talk to women. They attract the girls! 

However, one type of woman can attract the Alpha Male and hold his attention. That one woman recognizes him for what he is, the influence he yields, the power he commands, why he is so sexually appealing.

That one woman is the Alpha Female. The Alpha Male is attracted to other women, but it’s short lived. When he finds an Alpha Female, like most men, he will work to claim her as well.

But, WHY????

FEMALES

Men write poetry and songs about, for her, and to her. They’re the females who always get the guy, the success, the respect, and all those other fringe benefits that come with social and sexual power, and it’s been going on as long as her male counterpart…i.e., for millions of years. Why? Why do other women hate her? Why do the guys ogle and drool over them with sexual interest?

The Alpha Female is everything that the Alpha Male is…she just does it with a feminine flair. And, the Alpha Woman is Everything the Alpha Man is.

And there just aren’t too many Alpha Women…in fact, they are extremely rare, just as the Alpha Man is.

And while most men are concerned with finding a woman/many women (you know, because that’s what men like to do), the Alpha Female is concerned with ALL of her relationships.

She is bathed in the comfort of close friends and when away from the crowds, she loves her solitude because it nourishes her.

She displays the attractive female behaviors and she’s damn good at being true to herself!

The Alpha Female is confident (fearless women rock!) and she asserts herself. She doesn’t need to dress in risqué clothing or appear nude to attract men; her sexual allure is innate and that’s what attracts the men to her. She’s an original and not afraid to be who she is…she likes herself and that confidence is alluring.

She is not worried about whether or not she comes off as a “bitch”. And whenever she does come off as bitchy, her charm covers the indiscretion.

She has hot sexuality (femininity mixed with strength) and cool conversation. She’s smart and she respects herself, meaning that she loves who she is and takes care of her needs first…she isn’t needy—and that’s a highly desirable trait. The Alpha Female is a force to be reckoned with… she gets what she wants, when SHE wants it.

She is a huge turn-on for men and they all desire her, but women with low self-esteem hate her and will insult her behind her back, call her names behind her back, deviously make a comment that every female recognizes as catty but which males are totally clueless…but, seldom will the lesser female confront the Alpha Female with their complaints.

• She freely touches others in the group, without expressed or implied permission

• She might intimidate by staring or simply use the unnerving tactic to demand attention

• She's never uncomfortable with eye contact and will never back down when someone chooses to lock eye contact with her

• She has a true sense of justice, of what’s right and what’s wrong and she follows it. Not only does she follow it, she expects, sometimes demands, others to follow it as well

• She'll utilize the pregnant pause, stopping in the middle of sentences, phrases, even words, because she enjoys it when others allegorically hang on her every word

• She’s full of new and interesting and fun ideas and isn’t afraid to lead others who are so happy to have someone lead them in something new, they willingly follow. Anyone unwilling to follow is never missed if they choose to go another direction because the Alpha Female has so many followers, she’s never alone.

• When anyone in the group makes a significant statement, everyone in the group will look to the Alpha Female for her response

• Like the Alpha Male, the Alpha Female will do most everything slowly and with deliberation. If the doorbell rings, she makes the caller wait before answering it. If the phone rings, the voicemail will typically beat her to the caller. If someone calls her name, she'll finish her sentence before responding to the person she considers intruding. If everyone’s rushing about, she'll run a comb through her hair and check her makeup before she’ll consider going forward with a purpose. This forces those around her to wonder but they move on her schedule—a demonstration of situation (and people) control.

• When she’s interested, she holds the conversation's figurative remote control: despite others' attempts to change the channel, she'll flex her power to make them think that what she wants to talk about is what they want to talk about—most often employing reverse psychology

• When walking in a group, the Alpha Female generally leads…whether she’s in front of females or males, or both. Without a hint of metaphor, she takes the lead

• Again, like her male counterpart, she’ll have no doubts about holding her head high, exposing her neck, saying silently, "I'm not afraid of any of you. Look, here's my exposed jugular to prove it."

• She’ll never show any signs of nervousness—she has everything in control and she’s confident

• She'll disclose very little about herself but she’ll question others to learn everything about them.

The Alpha Female’s a decision-maker who is committed to her goals and dreams. She may be opinionated and unafraid to speak her mind, but she’s on top of her game. She’s obstinate, sometimes conceited, and doesn’t always make it easy for people who are not Alpha.

She gives men a run for their money and makes them work overtime on her, so to speak. But all this only makes her MORE appealing to men. She is, in other words, the quintessential “Alpha Female.” She has an uncanny ability to make men desire her. The Alpha Female’s talents are special, and consequently, satisfying her might be a man’s biggest challenge yet.

She won’t hang onto any male, Alpha or otherwise, when he begins neglecting her. She doesn’t have to…there are too many other men and Alpha Males just waiting for the opportunity to be selected by her and she knows it. In her mind, if she isn’t the Alpha Female for the Alpha Male she selected, then he’s weak and is cast off. She’ll remain friends with him, but there will be no female/male attraction by her.

The Alpha Female is a self-assured, self-reliant high achiever and is, typically, physically attractive.

She doesn’t mess around. Often she’s a business owners and/or hold multiple degrees. This doesn’t mean she’s an uncompassionate ice queens a la Grace Jones in Boomerang. Ironically, an Alpha Female is completely opposite. She knows how to balance it all with a Coke and a smile. Then again, she tends to be physically fit, so we may have to nix that Coke for a Dasani water.

The Alpha Female rises to success and is a maverick, a hybrid, and she often denies that she’s like other women. She is today’s Renaissance Woman! Women do not like the Alpha Female very much, nor do they want to be like her. Beta and Gamma women want to be liked, which holds them back. The Alpha Female is often terribly misunderstood by Beta, Gamma, and lesser females and males, as evident by posts about Alpha Females that call her a bitch, a cunt, or a whore—the Alpha Female prefers passion over romance…although, if it's romance coming from an Alpha Male, a hootttttt one, that's another story...

When it comes to the selecting a long-term to lifetime mate, the Alpha Female is highly selective. Potential mates must have the ability to hold intellectually stimulating conversations and, generally, be equally yoked with said woman. Potential mates must present an intellectual challenge if they expect to hold an Alpha Female’s interest for any length of time. She should not be able to eat him alive in a conversation about current events. These men also need to be equally self-assured and self-reliant.

The Alpha Female has a great ability to make men chase her and she tends to have no shortage of men vying for their attention, many of which will seem like “the one” because they are so nice, so sweet, and will do any and everything under the sun for their woman. They also let their women do whatever they want, no questions asked. Enter the Beta Man. No, no, no, no-oo…A Beta Man (also called a Gamma Man) does everything right but he just can’t hold her attention, no matter what he does. Again, an Alpha Female requires a challenge. Beta Men give often “too” much of their time, money, and emotions. They are easily walked over and typically end up placed in the aforementioned “dreaded friend zone.” Many men, mostly the Omegas, will make remarks that she is too much trouble and they can have three women to her one. That’s why they’re still at the bottom of the dominance chain. Often, Alpha Females will hear from friends, “you don’t like nice guys.” This couldn’t be further from the truth. Alpha Females, like most women, love nice guys. In fact, an Alpha Female will not waste time with a disrespectful or mean-spirited man.

MALES AND FEMALES

To be Alpha, whether female or male, one has to:

Ø  Develop or boost self-confidence

Ø  Learn how to use his or her personal power

Ø  Revel in their femininity or masculinity, and have a hint of the opposite traits 

Ø  Pursue pleasure and provide entertainment value 

and

Ø  Learn to be more selfish (or self-mindful)

The Alpha Male and the Alpha Female assume the role of leader…when they walk into a room, they automatically expect others to follow out of respect

In a group, the Alpha Male and the Alpha Female enter into conversations with confidence and humor. When the confidence in a conversation is done correctly, it seems to attract the opposite sex’s attention and the same sex either respects them or will become jealous and quiet Alpha Men and Alpha Women are not being arrogant but humorous in their confidence levels.

One of the biggest traits other men and women look for is confidence. It’s something that can turn on a man or woman and allows him or her to feel that s/he can relax

An Alpha Male and an Alpha Female know what s/he wants and goes for it. They’re comfortable and take the lead when needed. They’re not afraid to be themselves and don’t fear being judged.

What are some other differences of the Alpha Male/Female and the Beta, Gamma, and Omega men and women?

ALPHA FEMALE: Never puts another woman down behind her back. She only acknowledges other women in nice ways.

Other female: Calls other women “bitches” and "sluts" and compares herself to others which backfires and makes the 'others' look more attractive.

ALPHA MALE: Waits to let a woman know he digs her and assumes that she likes him because she makes time for him.

Other male: Buys inappropriate gifts, calls/texts every day, shows that he's grateful to have the chance to be with her.

ALPHA FEMALE: Appreciates her uniqueness… she constantly takes care of herself, including her body, because she loves and respects who she is.

Other female: Asks if these jeans make her look fat..."No, sweetie, your fat makes you look fat". (If you don't like the way you look, then start working out and validate yourself.

ALPHA MALE: Doesn't pressure a woman for sex (but leads her to it)...because he knows it's gonna happen in time and anything of value is worth waiting for.

Other male: Has a 3 date rule… and misses out on the woman who would have been a "freak" for him had she only been emotionally connected.

ALPHA FEMALE: Keeps her own friendships, passion, and interests and only lets men stay in her life when they enhance it.

Other female: Gives up all outside interests and makes her man the center of her universe.

ALPHA MALE: Grabs a woman and kisses her passionately… a master of the bold move… he doesn't even wait until the end of the first date.

Other male: Asks for a kiss, gets denied, and goes home without “closing the deal.”

ALPHA FEMALE: Lets a man know that she's choosing him, then sits back and waits for him to pursue her…she's busy with other things/people in the process.

Other female: Makes herself extra-available for a guy she doesn't even know.

ALPHA MALE: Tells a woman what they're doing for the evening. He has a backup plan (just in case she's an Alpha Female who vetoes his idea).

Other male: Says "whatever you want to do"… not realizing that women generally don't like to make decisions and appreciate being told what's what.

ALPHA FEMALE: Is in control of her emotions, thinks before she acts, settles for nothing less than the best, and is completely untamable.

Other female: Lets people define her, agrees for the sake of being agreeable, sleeps with a guy to get him to like her and puts up with disrespect.

ALPHA MALE: Is brash, bold, funny, cocky and never underestimates himself.

Other male: Has part of the package, but is too shy to execute.

ALPHA FEMALE: Drips with sex appeal, and wouldn't be caught dead in hooker clothes to "catch a man" or grubby underwear "cause no one is looking".

Other female: Flaunts her sexuality…even when she's uncomfortable doing so…and wears sexy underwear to catch a "man" and not for her own enjoyment.

ALPHA MALE: Is up front with the girls he talks to…letting them know that he will only commit to the right woman…if at all.

Other male: Is more in love with happily ever after and looks for a woman to play the part of wifey.

ALPHA FEMALE: Knows that people need to hang with their friends, so she happily sends him out with the boys while she takes care of herself or kicks it with her friends. However, she will never tolerate him pursuing other women…she’ll give him one chance to explain but generally drops him immediately. She’s too self-confident to see the need to put up with a roving male. In very rare instances, when she finds the perfect Alpha Male, she will give him a second chance…after she’s had time to consider the other female may be only a Beta or Omega—women who are no real threat to her.

Other female: Throws a fit, calls him constantly, and asks him where he was and who he was with whenever he has a guy's night out…OR she whines and cries and keeps her insecurities to herself afraid of a confrontation, unwilling to lose the man. But, the lesser woman never trusts him to do what he says or to be with who he says he will be with. Betas will tolerate only to a point, then will begin their tantrums or will reply, “Nothing!” when the man asks, “What’s wrong?” Some Omegas will stalk a man if she thinks he has shown any interest in her.

This information is created from months of reading, research into various classes of the class system, interviews, and dialogues, and questionnaires completed by just under 100 people. It’s not conclusive and cannot be considered a psychological, anthropological, etc. paper of authority. Some is also the opinion of the writer.